Happy Mother’s Day to all of you wonderful mom’s, but a special Happy Mother’s Day to my momma! She is the most kind hearted, loving, forgiving, funny, rock and roll, bad a** Mom out there. She has taught me so much as a mom, so I thought I would share a few lessons.
1. She isn’t as crazy as we thought she was. Yes, she is crazy but when she was getting mad at us for not cleaning up after ourselves she wasn’t being crazy. It’s so frustrating trying your hardest to keep a house clean just to have someone leave a toy or shoes out in the middle of the floor.
2. Who cares what people think of you. This goes for parenthood and life in general. You have to remember that this life is yours and it doesn’t matter what Susan down the street thinks if you yell at your kids or not. Chances are your kid was being an asshole!
3. Having a clean house does make you feel better. I never believed her as a kid, it never made sense that having cleared off counters could put you in a good mood. But I’m here to tell you when I wake up and the house is messy I get so angry! So yes having a clean house is nice but the process of keeping it clean is exhausting and NEVER ENDING!
4. Laugh at yourself. Growing up (and currently) my mom was the center of most of the jokes. She does bring it upon herself but she is always a good sport about it. If she says something that was a duh moment she laughs it off. Because you know what life is short and well we all have our moments. I can now laugh at myself for just about anything, if it’s embarrassing or if I’m just being really funny!
5. It’s okay to not be perfect. I think my mom is pretty perfect and did an awesome job raising my siblings and I. But sometimes shit hit the fan, sorry Mom & Dad! Life is messy and for us to have these unrealistic expectations of being on top of everything isn’t fair to anyone. As long as you’re doing your best that is all that matters. Let’s face it these kids aren’t going to remember the super awesome Pinterest crafts that you spent an hour cleaning up. Your kids will remember the love that you gave them and that’s just about it!
6. Stay true to yourself, this is a follow up of #5. In life you need to stay true to who you are. Be honest with yourself and the kind of parent you are going to be or are. It’s okay if you can’t breastfeed or if your kid is a bit of a wild child. Don’t try to filter or cover up the way your life really is. I will be the first one to say that my kids are acting like assholes but I can also say that no one on this planet will ever love them as much as I do. If you’re meeting someone for the first time, let them see who you are. If they don’t like you then that’s their loss not yours! You’ll find your tribe and when you do it will be awesome!
7. Lastly have the damn drink! Listen our jobs as moms is hard, I mean like really hard! Like crying yourself to sleep and then waking up in the morning and seeing a smiling baby face the next hard. If you have the chance to have a glass of wine or go out with your girls, then DO IT! Don’t hesitate, don’t worry about the kids or husband, just go! Everyone will be just fine and you will feel a 100 times better after.
These are just a few things that I have learned from my mom that has helped me get through some tough parenting and life situations. Live your life for you and your family and screw the rest! You’re an amazing mother and are doing the best you can.
Mom, thank you for always being there when I needed you and when I didn’t think I needed you. You have taught me to be a strong woman and to always do my best even when I don’t want to. Always remember that I appreciate everything that you do for my family. You have become my best friend and I love our relationship that we share. Thank you for loving me unconditionally, never judging me, and showing me what a good mother and wife should be like. I love you mom, and you deserve the world!